When it comes to fire walking and the other metaphors I work with I’m sure you can imagine

Can’t is a word I hear often

“I can’t do that”

“I can’t afford it”

“We can’t work it out”

“I can’t change”

But when it comes to thinking about you want to create for yourself, can’t is not something that serves you.

When did you last use the word?

Most often when I hear can’t I now know that people are kidding themselves, not me, I call it ‘the bullish*t we tell ourselves’ as I’m sure I do it too.

Can’t comes from fear – fear of the unknown, fear of looking like a fool, fear of what change will involve.  Can’t is not a good word to be using.

At the end of the day very few things are not possible – even if you don’t have the resources personally you can find others that can help you, find ways round the obstacle, and find other avenues to provide what you need, but FIRST you need to decide that you truly WANT what you’re stating is impossible….. When you’re ready you can drop the can’t word and start moving forward – so what can you do with can’t to make it possible?

Start Questioning Yourself

Our minds respond really well to questions – as soon as we are posed with a question our brains start whirring around in the background trying to work out what they will do to come up with an answer.

So if you start replacing the can’t word with how, you’ll soon start to figure out ways and means of achieving what it is you want.

“How can I do that?”

“How can I afford it?”

“How can we work it out?”

“How can I change?”

Swapping the words won’t give you the answers – but it will help you to start working them out, rather than giving up before you’ve even started.

Then when you’re doing your planning and goal setting you can focus on what you actually want, rather than what doesn’t push you out of your comfort zone – give it a go!